Five dominoes standing up

It’s been three weeks and one day since we discovered our missed miscarriage at the 12-week scan. And two weeks five days since the ERPC procedure. So let’s call it three weeks since the nightmare began. When we heard those words, that our baby had no heartbeat, my own heart broke. I looked at my…Continue Reading “5 ways I knew I felt ‘better’ after my miscarriage”

Yellow background, dragon fruit on plate

While on sick leave from our recent missed miscarriage and subsequent ERPC procedure, I went to the library (it’s one of my favourite places) and took The IVF Diet – Zita West out. The book was a pleasant surprise. I’m not normally interested in cooking or recipes, and generally find books like this a bit…Continue Reading “The IVF Diet – Zita West: my top 10 take-aways”

Two pebbles on a pink background with drawings

It must be hard being the husband of a woman going through a miscarriage. “Are you the partner?” said the doctor to my husband as we waited for our ERPC procedure last Monday. I thought: who the bloody hell do you think he is (in my usual, convivial way)?! I can’t put myself fully in…Continue Reading “Six ways to support your husband or partner following a miscarriage”

Apple Mac on bed with coffee

Deciding how long to take off work after a missed miscarriage is tricky. I agonised over it unnecessarily for days. It’s been 12 days since we discovered I’d had a missed miscarriage.  The pregnancy stopped at nine weeks, but there were no signs that anything was wrong until the 12-week scan.  Finding out I was…Continue Reading “How long to take off work after a missed miscarriage”

Little flowers blue background

This was one of my main take-aways from the Fertility Show, London, November 2018.  My husband and I paid £3 each to go to a seminar by Russell Davis, a hypnotherapist, who talked about his own experience with infertility and the body/mind connection.  The main gist of it was to realise that, whatever happens –…Continue Reading “‘Whatever happens, you’re going to be OK’”

One of the most annoying things that people say who don’t know much about infertility or IVF is: ‘If you just relax, it’ll happen.’ Sure. In theory. But relaxing isn’t going to do much in our situation, with my other half’s dumb ass sperm. I mean, those sperm are so relaxed, they ain’t movin’ anywhere!…Continue Reading “How to relax when everything’s so damn stressful?!”